“Work-life balance was a mistake from the start. Because we don’t really want balance. We want satisfaction.”—Matthew Kelly, author
I just spent 6 nights in Mexico on vacation. It was a beautiful time spent with my husband and close friends. We explored the historic and charming town of Guanajuato and attended a magical wedding at a gorgeous hidden Hacienda. The time away from the work and household grind was what I soooo needed and craved. There was no to-do list, wifi, TV, work calls or laptops disturbing or distorting our peace, relaxation and adventure each day.
When I returned from Mexico, I returned to the work emails and calls, laundry, household chores, social events, and holiday obligations. WORK! At first, I faulted the vacation for giving that feeling of being behind or overwhelmed. Have you ever felt you needed a vacation from the vacation???
All I really wanted was to have that sense of ease I had in Mexico. If only I could package that up and bring it back in my suitcase! With all that I had to tackle on my to-do list, I wish I could simply go back to Mexico….or anywhere else that all play and no work.
As adults, we have careers, partners, children, family commitments, charity work, classes, hobbies, church or worship—the list goes on it seems. AND don’t forget about our big desires to improve our health and well-being.
Maybe you’ve wondered how the heck to balance this all in our every day lives. Wondering if it always be a constant stressful juggle between it all.
Is Balance A Myth?
I believe finding the “Sweet Spot” is an easier to attain (and more fun) than finding balance.
The sweet spot or whatever you want to call it —harmony or balance — is when your true priorities overlap with your true desires. There is a secret to doing more of what you want and less of what you don’t want.
Ready for it?
It’s simple but isn’t so easy to execute. It also requires that you dig a little deeper within and get clear on what you want your life to look like, and what you do not want in your life.
Okay, here’s the secret:
- Ask yourself, “What doesn’t need to be in my life?” “What is dragging me down?” “What is keeping me awake at night?”
- Write out the answers you identify. Now, get rid of these things if you can, or tweak them. Just Do it NOW.
- Then, ask yourself, “What do I want in my life—or in this week or day?” “What do I really desire?” What do I want to accomplish?” “Who do I want to be with?” Focus your energy on these things. Anything that doesn’t fit into this larger beautiful plan and isn’t moving toward your real desires… let it go. Learn how to say “no” when you need to.
Ready to dig in and make a few changes?
Give this exercise a try and see how living in the sweet spot feels so sweet and simple.
Leave a comment below if you are going after that harmonious sweet spot in your life. I’d love to know!